When you discover someone in your family is struggling with sexual sin or identity, we understand that it’s hard to know where to start and how to process it all. We have compiled a library below to help guide your thoughts, prayers and next steps. We hope that these resources will be a helpful starting point on the road ahead.
Hope
–A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption – Becket Cook
–Grace Abounding to the Chief of Sinners – John Bunyan
–Hope for the Same Sex Attracted: Biblical Direction for Friends, Family, and those Struggling with Homosexuality – Ron Citlau
-If I Tell You I’m Gay, Will You Still Love Me? – Ann Mobley
-I’m So Glad You Told Me – Barbara Johnson
-Love into Light: The Gospel, the Homosexual, and the Church – Peter Hubbard
-Mama Get the Hammer – Barbara Johnson
-Out of the Far Country: A Gay Son’s Journey to God – Christopher Yuan
-The Plausibility Problem – Ed Shaw
-Risky Faith – Susan Yates
-Same Sex Attraction and the Church – Ed Shaw
–When Your Child Breaks Your Heart – Barbara Johnson
-You Are Not Alone: Hope for Hurting Parents – Dena Yohe
Personal Growth
-The Art of Divine Contentment – Thomas Watson
-Crook in the Lot – Thomas Boston
-The Enemy Within – Kris Lundgaard
-Good and Angry – David Powlison
-Good Mood, Bad Mood – Charles Hodges M.D.
-Hole in Our Holiness – Kevin DeYoung
-Lifted: Experiencing the Resurrected Life – Sam Albert
-Living Without Worry – Timothy Lane
-The Pursuit of Holiness – Jerry Bridges
-The Valley of Vision – Arthur Bennett
Idols in Your Life
-Counter Culture: Following Christ in an Anti-Christian Age – David Platt
-Gospel Treason – Brad Bigney
-Idols of the Heart – Elyse Fitzpatrick
-Loving a Prodigal – Norman Wright
-Thoughts of God – Maurice Roberts
-When Good Kids Make Bad Choices – Elyse Fitzpatrick
Suffering Well
-Broken Down House – Paul David Tripp
-Living Above Work and Stress -Patsy Clairmont
-Shelter in the Time of Storm: Meditations on God and Trouble – Paul David Tripp
-When the Darkness Will Not Lift – John Piper
-When God’s Children Suffer – Horatius Bonar
-Why Do I Suffer? Suffering and the Sovereignty of God – John Currid
Addressing Homosexuality Biblically
–The Beauty of Intolerance – Josh McDowell
-Bible, Gender, Sexuality: Reframing the Church’s Debate on Same Sex Relationships – James Brownson
-The Case Against Christians Attending a Gay Wedding – Kevin DeYoung
-Compassion Without Compromise – Ron Citlau
-The Complete Christian Guide to Understanding Homosexuality – Joe Dallas and Nancy Heche
–Full of Grace and Truth: The Gospel and Sexuality in the Global Church – Vaughan Roberts
-The Gay Dilemma and Your Church: Reaching Out to Those Who Struggle – John Freeman
-The Gay Gospel – Joe Dallas
-The Gospel and Sexual Orientation – Michael LeFebvre
-Is God Antigay? – Sam Albert
-Holy Sexuality and the Gospel – Christopher Yuan
-Homosexuality: A Biblical View – Greg Bahnsen
-Homosexuality: Speaking the Truth in Love – Ed Welch
-Love Thy Body – Nancy Pearcy
–Male and Female He Created Them – Denny Burk, David Closson & Colin Smothers
-Mere Sexuality – Todd Wilson
-The Plausibility Problem – Ed Shaw
-The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert – Rosaria Butterfield
-A Strong Delusion – Joe Dallas
–We Cannot be Silent- Speaking to a Culture that Redefines Sex, Marriage, and the Meaning of Right and Wrong – Al Mohler
-What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality? – Kevin DeYoung
–What Does the Bible Teach About Sexuality and Identity? – Owen Strachan
–When Homosexuality Hits Home – Joe Dallas
Miscellaneous
–Affirming God’s Image – Alan Branch
-Counterfeit Gods – Tim Keller
-Desires and Deceit – Al Mohler
-Five Lies Of Our Anti-Christian Age – Rosario Butterfield
-The Heart of Female Same Sex Attraction: A Comprehensive Counseling Resource – Janelle Hallman
-Identity Theft: Reclaiming Who God Created You to Be – Mike Bureaux
-Love Into Light – Peter Hubbard
–Making Gay OK – Robert Reilly
-Strange New World – Carl Trueman
-Toxic War on Masculinity – Nancy Pearcy
-Transgender to Transformed – Laura Perry
-What God Has To Say About Our Bodies – Sam Allberry
–Why Gender Matters – Leonard Sax
–You Never Stop Being a Parent – Jim Newheiser and Elyse Fitzpatrick
-Your Gay Child says “I Do” – Harvest USA
Podcasts & Posts
Life, Books, and Everything – Podcast with Kevin DeYoung
A Biblical View of Homosexuality (July 15, 2015)
Not That Kind of Homosexuality? (November 13, 2014)
Common Fault Lines In Maintaining an Evangelical Approach to Homosexuality (June 14, 2013)
What the Bible Really Still Says About Homosexuality (May 16, 2012)
Why Can’t the Church Just Agree to Disagree on Homosexuality (March 13, 2015)
Safe Schools, Gender Nonconformity and Common Sense (April 8, 2016)
Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey
This Is a Sham Marriage: What to Pray for Your LGBT Family Members by Rosario Butterfield (Podcast episode; September 7, 2026)
Becket Cook Show
Episode 124 – Roundtable with Rosario Butterfield and Christopher Yuan, Part 1
Episode 125 – The Gay Christian Deception by Butterfield and Yuan, Roundtable Part 2
Episode 126 – Signs of False Teachers with Butterfield and Yuan, Roundtable Part 3
Episode 58 – Side A and Side B Christianity